Besides creating invitations like this online wedding invitations, one of the most exciting things leading up to your big day is preparing your registry. Choosing out the gifts you desire most can be a real highlight – almost as rewarding as actually receiving the gifts! However, it can be tricky to know how best to share your registry details with friends and family. You don’t want to make the awkward mistake of including them on your wedding invitations!
Make sure you keep in mind that giving gifts is not a requirement. You may decide to only share registry details with people who explicitly ask you.
Where not to put them
From social media to your wedding invitations, here are some of the places that registry details just don’t belong:
While it might seem tempting, refrain from posting your registry details on Facebook. Not only does it appear a bit greedy, but it could upset people who aren’t going to your marriage ceremony. It’s fine to post a link to your marriage website, though (and this should include easy-to-find registry information), as is messaging, texting or emailing details to anyone who asks.
Putting your registry details on the wedding invitations is considered impolite, even if you aren’t requesting any presents (as is asking for cash instead). Mentioning presents can give your guests the wrong impression by suggesting that you expect a gift beyond their presence.
Where to put them
Instead of writing your registry details on your wedding invitations, opt to include them in one of these:
Bridal shower cards
As bridal showers are considered gift giving activities anyway, they’re a great opportunity to spread the news about your registry. Given that most people don’t host their own bridal shower, it’s a good idea to get the host to add a note or link to your registry details. It’s generally considered impolite for the bride or groom to directly ask for gifts, though it’s fine for friends or family to share the word for you.
Putting a registry page on your website is a great way to share your details without seeming pushy or demanding. It also makes gift buying much easier for your guests; simply include links to each online store and your guests will be able to make their decision. Just be careful that the wording you use is polite; something along the lines of “If you would like to give a gift…” so that guests know gift-giving is optional.
Putting your marriage website on your save-the-date cards is a socially acceptable and easy way to spread the news about your big day (as opposed to including them in wedding invitations). If your guests want to buy you a gift they will easily be able to find the registry details for themselves via your website. This is also a good way to give your guests plenty of time to prepare in advance.
Finally, don’t forget the power of old-fashioned word of mouth! Before the days of the internet, marriage ceremony guests got their registry information by asking the family and friends of the couple. So be sure to tell your immediate family, groomsmen and bridesmaids the information so that they can share the details on your behalf. Feel free to let them know if there are any gifts you’re particularly keen on, too.
Whatever you do, avoid things getting awkward by keeping your registry out of your wedding invitations and by letting people know that gift giving is optional and that their presence is more than enough.